The Gift of Life
“I didn’t give you the gift of life,
But in my heart I know.
The love I feel is deep and real,
As if it had been so.
For us to have each other
Is like a dream come true!
No, I didn’t give you
The gift of life,
Life gave me the gift of you.”
-Unknown
This quote from an anonymous poem about adoption is very meaningful to me. As I grew up the poem remained on my mind and has given me inspiration. My name is Rebecca and I was born in Yangjiang, China. When I was about 14 months old my parents adopted me and brought me to the United States. That was in 1997. In the 1990s, over 220,000 children were placed for adoption in the United States. Some of these children were domestically born, some were foreign born, some were young, and some were older. For all these children, including me, life is a lot different than it would have been without adoption. It changes children’s lives forever.
Kids are put up for adoption for many different reasons. I like to believe that I was put up for adoption as a baby because my biological mother wanted me to have a better life and education than I would have received in China. Other times a child’s family may not have the time, money, or ability to take care of a child. Adoptive parents provide the love, care, and stability that these children need. As the poem says, one mother gives you life and the other lets you experience that life. I know my biological mother loved me because she was willing to place me for adoption so that my adoptive mother and father could have the opportunity to love me and care for me.
There are many people who ask whether heredity or environment make you who you are. I believe it is a combination of both. My heredity gives me my personality and my appearance, but my environment shapes my thoughts, actions, and character. Adoption didn’t change the fact that I am Chinese; instead it gave me a chance to experience things that I would otherwise not have been able to experience.
Adoption is not a dirty word, it never was. There is always another way that has a good outcome. Some people have a hard time talking about adoption, but if people know it is a very positive way to form a family, more people might consider it as an option.
This I believe